If we were having coffee…we would be dicussing strong female role models

weekendcoffeeshareIf we were having coffee I would avoid talking about one job, just so I could prattle on about my other. It’s a beautiful day, so we would be outside in the garden, sitting beneath a large red umbrella with an array of tasty treats between us. Perhaps we would have a cold drink or, more accurately – you might. I’m rarely without a cup of tea, whatever the weather! From our position at the patio table, we’d have a direct line of sight to my glorious daisies. They’re drooping a little in this heat, though, granted, they are exceptionally tall this year.

Being in the garden would prompt a discussion about helping my mum out this past week. Her garden has a low running white wall along the entire boundary, topped with fencing. She got the messy job of painting the fence, I got the arduous job of painting the wall – it was a serious workout! The rest of the family helped too; we listened to music, chatted, and shouted insults for dripping onto each others section! It’s almost done, and just in time for my brother’s visit. He’ll be here for a few days, and we have lots planned during his stay. Most importantly, we’re having a garden party. Yes, it’s been several weeks since he got his promotion, but we haven’t seen him, so there will be banners, balloons, gifts, and a few celebratory toasts.

Zak paining

If we were having coffee I would ask about your week, and your plans for the rest of the day. I would top off our drinks, and we might go inside for a while where it’s cool.

Eventually, the conversation would turn to writing. I’ve been too busy to write this week, and the work in progress is not going well – so I’d probably be avoiding it anyway! After the weekend I will continue with the next book in the Morgan and Fairchild series. I enjoy writing strong female characters, and Ellen Parker, one of the protagonists, is a tough cookie (in more ways than one!) She’s a former Artillery Troop Officer (Royal Artillery); a weapons expert, and skilled in hand to hand combat, so, yeah – she’s fun!

Ellen has similar personality traits to my great-grandmother, which makes her a formidable woman. My great-grandmother, Doris, who was my grandfather’s mother, is one of my role models. Not because she raised four boys single-handed (my great-grandfather died young), but because, no matter what life threw at her, she came out fighting. She had a wicked sense of humour, and that’s one of the things I remember most fondly. She had Parkinson’s disease, and struggled with her health in general when I was a teenager, but she never let it beat her. I once visited her with my sister, just to check in. “What have you being doing today, grandma?” my sister asked. “Nowt but bloody shaking!” Oh, how we laughed…she always made us laugh.

Doris's boys

If we were having coffee, I would thank you for stopping by, and wish you a very happy weekend. I have an editing job to finish, which should be complete by tonight, and then I can make my rounds and catch up with everyone else at Diana’s place. Don’t forget to check in with the others who take part in the Weekend Coffee Share at Part-Time Monster – it’s a lot of fun.

Until next time.


31 responses to “If we were having coffee…we would be dicussing strong female role models”

  1. That insult-shouting is essential to a family project. Love your great-grandmother’s response to your question too. Having a sense of humor seems to be a big part of being tough for some people. Meet the hardships with a laugh and they’ll be easier to deal with?

  2. Sounds like great grandma was of the Maya Angelou school ‘If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.’ Love that sort of resilience.

  3. What a fun coffee. I always love our time together. A little bit of Tom Sawyer there with your Grandma, hunh? I miss the days when I could sit down with coffee and a few pastries–and eat them all! No more. I’d be tuba if I did that.

    • I love that reference – I think she would have loved it too! I know what you mean about the pastries too…now they’re only virtual treats – easier on the waistline 😉

  4. Hi Mel! Thanks for the coffee! The protagonist in my current WiP is a strong, black, slightly chubby young woman. Why should mainstream heroines all be white and size 4? For another story of mine (with a male protagonist), I had to do tons of research on the British Army and the RAMC, so if you need any info for your Artillery Troop Officer, let me know, I’m sure I’ve got procedures, ranks, medals etc. still in my big head. And if not, it’s on my hard drive and in my notebook 🙂 xx

    • That would be awesome, Conny, thanks so much. I spent a day last week talking to someone about escaping from handcuffs, binds, and zip tags! I love researching, but it’s great to know I can tap that marvellous brain of yours! Hope you had a wonderful weekend – I’ll be over for my coffee soon! 😀 xx

  5. Grandmas and great-grandmas are the best, and mine were my heroes too. They just had so much crap to deal with back then that it blew my mind how they overcame it all and stayed optimistic about the world. So I raise my teacup to our inspiring matriarchs!

  6. 🙂 Nice to hear more about your family. I’ve always liked family stories and oral histories.

    One year when I was working at a summer camp, a buddy and I had to paint so. much. fence. And it was that same brown color, so all I can think of now is days of fence painting and several ruined T-shirts. lol

  7. Painting with that crew sounds like fun! I’ve done a lot of painting in my day but I don’t think I have ever had anyone else painting while I paint! I guess I’ve been missing something!

    • It can be a lot of fun! At one point there were five of us all painting something…like a little production line! It hardly felt like work (until the next day) because we were yabbering away! 😀

  8. Sounds like a busy day. Sorry the WIP isn’t going well. That’s always tough. I was super manic yesterday and was doing all kinds of cleaning, packing, and shipping, and boy am I feeling it today!

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